Using a Friend or Family Member to Help You Buy or Sell a Home

This one’s tough — because it’s personal. But it needs to be said clearly:

Doing real estate deals with friends or family almost never ends well.

We know — it feels like the right thing to do. Maybe they just got licensed. Maybe your aunt insists you use your cousin who “knows a guy.” Maybe your best friend swears their sister is great.

But here’s the truth:

Buying or selling a home is likely the biggest financial transaction of your life. It’s not the time to do someone a favor or give someone “a shot” at learning the ropes — especially when you’re the one at risk.

Even worse? If things go sideways — and in real estate, problems almost always pop up — you’re not just dealing with the transaction. You’re dealing with your relationship, your holidays, and possibly years of awkward tension. And that’s assuming the deal even closes.

If your friend or relative is truly a top-tier pro — experienced, skilled, and in the top 10% of agents — that’s a different conversation. But statistically? 90% of agents aren’t. So the odds are stacked against you.

We’ve seen it all — deals fall apart, money lost, friendships ruined, and families fractured. Trust us:
It’s easier to say “no” upfront than to deal with the fallout later.

Here’s what you can say:

• “I value our relationship way too much to risk it over a real estate deal.”
• “I love them, but I need someone with more experience for this type of transaction.”
• “I want the best possible help I can get, and I hope you understand how important this is to me.”

Say it kindly. Say it early. But say it.

Because once that deal goes bad — and if the person isn’t truly ready to handle it — you’re in for way more than just buyer’s remorse.

See some common FAQs here: Should I follow real estate advice from friends and family?